people says that u can only forget someone's mistake by forgiving him or her, is this theory usable?indeed, the answer depend on yourself on how u can manage yourself, i mean your emotion....
for those who are also in the same boat, may be this will help... i have read an article. the overall message of the article advise us that we can never forget by forgetting...sounds weird??..i have paste a few paragraph (a guide How To forget retrieved from increasebrainpower.com) so, lets read it...any direct attempt to try to forget something isn't going to work. if i told you to right now to not to think about a red balloon as big as a house, to avoid at all costs any thought about that huge red balloon floating in the sky, you might just have an image of a red balloon. it would probably be there in your mind for just about as long as you kept telling yourself, 'stop thinking about that'....
the same is true when you tell yourself to stop thinking about anything. what are you dooing when you say 'don't think about X?' you are bringing your attention to the very thing you want to forget. that provides insight necessary for getting something out of your mind. attention is limited and you can only focus on so many things at a time, and the less you focus something, the it fades away in your mind. so, the key on how to forget is to place your attention somewhere else.
that's only a theory...(tergantung diatas awan tak jejak dibumi yang nyata said 'someone' long time ago)... so, we should try to find the most practical way on how to forget..as a muslim, we should know that there must be 'hikmah' behind what had happen...so, why dont we try to look at the bright side of everything...so that, life will be more meaningful... for me, i believe that "try to forget is to try to remember, so, its better to run and embrace it rather than avoiding or forgetting it"
semoga setiap usaha akan bjaya..man jadda wa jada... :-)
